moving in

Congratulations! Your partner is coming to visit! That’s wonderful. Whether this is a first visit or part of your routine, there are ways to make your partner feel even more comfortable in your apartment. From dedicating a space to your partner’s items or doing a deep clean of the space, your partner will appreciate the effort when you open the door and they can just relax. We reached out to experts in relationships, including counselors, therapists, and dating coaches to compile the top 18 tips to prepare your space for your partner’s visit. Read on to learn more and impress them the next time they come over. 1. First impressions matter Though you’ve already created a strong foundation with your partner, first impressions are still important to the health of your relationship. When first visiting a space that isn’t their own, you want your partner to feel welcome from the moment they step in the door. “When your partner visits your home it is most important that their first experience of you upon their arrival is that you prioritize acknowledging them,” says Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan of Empathi, a therapy service for couples or individuals. “For example, if you are cooking, stop cooking as soon as it is safe to look them in the eyes and greet them enthusiastically. If you are on a call, interrupt the call to greet them, etc., It is most important that your partner receives the message that their presence is your priority and you greet them enthusiastically. Moments of coming together and parting are particularly important to deliver emotional bonding significant messages.” Another thing to keep in mind is to cue into your partner’s body language. They might present as being relaxed through their voice, but their body is transmitting signs of discomfort. As a licensed therapist and co-founder of Crescent Counseling, Amanda Stretcher recommends, “Take cues from their body language and reactions to create a warm atmosphere that feels safe and inviting. Sometimes, it’s the small gestures like adjusting the lighting or offering a comforting hug that can make a big difference.” It’s vital that your partner knows they are welcome in your apartment from the moment they step through the door. “Creating a welcoming space for your partner is key to deepening your connection,” adds Amie the Dating Coach, a Certified Master Life Coach and relationship coach for Los Angeles and Las Vegas. “Set aside a drawer for them, let them know they can leave a set of bathroom toiletries on hand, and stock their favorite snacks in the pantry. These thoughtful gestures show you’re inviting them into your life in a meaningful way, once your relationship has flourished you might consider giving them a key when you are ready.” We’ll dive more into the suggestions Amie brought up throughout the article. 2. Consider your partner’s needs Showing that you are taking into account and care about your partner’s needs is a great way to make them feel welcome. “Considering your partner’s needs will make them feel more at ease,” says Rachele Kehler, a Women’s alignment coach and Human Design guide. “I am a light sleeper, and I immediately felt more at ease in my partner’s place when he provided me with earplugs and a sleep mask!” Take the time to learn what makes your partner most comfortable and try to accommodate those preferences in your apartment. “Everyone has their own comfort preferences, whether it’s the room temperature, lighting, or bed arrangement. Maybe they like extra pillows on the bed or a specific type of tea in the morning. These small adjustments can make a significant impact on how at ease they feel in your space,” says Krysia Szyszlo, founder of Date Your Destiny, an online love and dating coach service aimed towards mid-life singles and based in Toronto. Being proactive is a great way to learn more and make sure you’re meeting your partner’s needs. “Asking and being curious about what your partner would like makes them valued.  Always be curious about their likes and dislikes. Observe your partner’s preferences so you can  surprise your partner with your knowledge of them by having on hand the things they prefer,” shares Dr. Lori Runge, a relationship expert and love coach. “When in doubt, ask them how they would like to be shown that they are cared for. Make sure to be curious about their preferences and do the small little things – they add up and they matter!” 3. Give them a space for them to keep their things If your partner is spending a lot of time at your place, setting aside a space for them to keep their things is a great way to make your partner feel comfortable. “To make your partner feel truly welcome, consider setting up a small space just for them,” says Alpha Attraction, a dating service for singles based in New Zealand. “It could be a dedicated spot in the closet for their clothes, a special drawer, or even a cozy corner with some of their favorite books or magazines. This gesture shows that you’re thinking about their comfort and makes them feel more at home.” When your significant other comes to visit, thoughtfully allocating “real estate” in key areas can make a big difference. “Start by ensuring they have their side of the bed and nightstand area, as well as designated drawer and closet space in the bedroom for their belongings. In the bathroom, provide them with dedicated storage for their toiletries and personal items,” recommends Jen of Jen’s Life Coaching. “Additionally, create a comfortable and organized workspace for their remote work needs, complete with a chair, a small desk, and essential office supplies. These considerations help make their visit more comfortable and enjoyable.” 4. Provide the essentials When your partner comes to visit, they have a lot on their mind. They’re packing clothes, toiletries, books, and other essentials that they might need. Take a load off their mind and prepare a few essentials